When was the last time you sat down to dream? To plan out your life. I’m would guess that for a lot of you, you may have never done something like this. As we go through life, we start to lose the ability to dream.
My wife and I have five children. Our oldest is eight, we have five-year-old triplets (two boys and a girl), and a one-year-old girl. My kids certainly know how to dream and imagine. Just this morning they were reenacting the last chapter that my wife had read to them from “Harry Potter.”
One of the triplets would like to be a police officer, and two would like to be special agent spies. When my oldest was 3 or 4, she consistently said she wanted to be a doctor, a cowboy, and a mommy. Now she intends to be an author.
Those aren’t exactly mundane career choices. I have noticed that as my children age their goals and dreams change. They become fewer and “more realistic.” Maybe that’s a good thing, and maybe not.
Did you know that 84% of children in kindergarten rank high in creative thinking? In second grade, only two years later, a depressing 10% of children rank high in creative thinking. What happens in those two years? What happens to adults that make it hard for most of us to dream and to set goals and achieve them? Life happens.
Life can have a tendency to beat you up. The more you get beat up the harder it is to dream and goal set. Do you get what I mean? Well if you don’t think about your life as a 10 round boxing match. You come out in the first round ready to go. You have studied your opponent and you know how to beat them. This is you fresh out of chiropractic college.
Then you land what seems to be a great associateship, but it turns out your boss treats you like crap. Jab to the right cheek. Then you try to get a loan to start your own practice and the process takes forever. Jab to the left cheek. Once you do get your doors open you realize that patients don’t magically show up because you are open. Hard right hook to the jaw. Then a few patients reject care, don’t keep their appointments, or follow their care plans. Jab, jab, right hook and you end up looking more like this.
The good news it’s never too late to start dreaming again. You can get up off the matt; I am here to help you. You don’t have to drift through life. I talked about the first step to getting your practice back on track here. You need to know the score. Today we talk about figuring out where you want to go.
The Lost Art of Dreaming
Dreaming is a lost art and today I want to re-introduce you to it so you can start to have the life and practice you desire.
So first of all let’s establish what dreaming isn’t.
- Dreaming isn’t about setting goals. Dreaming in this context is putting down on paper in great detail exactly how you would like your life to look in the future. Goals help your dreams become a reality, but they are not the same thing.
- Dreaming isn’t a bad thing. Dreaming gets a bad rap. “He has his head in the clouds” or “she’s such a dreamer” are not usually meant as a compliment. Without dreams, people die, and we have to overcome this societal tendency to squash dreamers.
What I want you to do is to get somewhere quite this week by yourself. Find a nice quiet room in your house away from your wife and kids, or go down to the local Starbucks, or grab a picnic table a scenic park in your area. Wherever you end up having to go, just get away to spend a few hours by yourself. What you are going to do is right down is exact detail how your life will look in 5 years. You are writing in the present moment but in five years. You will include lots of detail and don’t just talk about things but talk about emotions, and what achieving your dream will mean for you and those around you. Here’s the introductory paragraph from mine:
- I believe very wholeheartedly that any dreams, aspirations, of plans I have for my life, must begin and end with God. Glorifying God in all I do is the chief end of my life. One of the ways we glorify God is to obey His commands. Jesus said that the two greatest commands are “You shall love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind. This is the great and first commandment. And a second is like it: You shall love your neighbor as yourself.” So these commandments should permeate every aspect of my life. I realize that every part of my life is intertwined but for the purpose of this exercise I will break my life down into the following categories and expand on each below: Business, Spiritual, Home, Financial, Health and Wellness.
- Get somewhere quiet and spend some time writing out what your life will look like in 5 years in the areas I mentioned just above here in my intro paragraph for my dream. Don’t let fear, or hesitancy limit your dream. Go big or go home.
- Read your dream daily. I have had a hard time with this one myself. That’s why I love doing what I do. Hopefully, these posts help you grow yourself and your practice. I know they do me because it forces me to practice what I preach.
See you next week, where we will talk about how to get from point a to point b. How to get from where you are to where you want to go. In the mean time would mind sharing your thoughts with me about this post? How about an excerpt from your dream statement?